Is Your Partner An Alcoholic?

Recognizing the symptoms in your partner as being an alcoholic are not always quite so clear. In fact discovering your partner's drinking habits is nearly as stressful for you as it is for him coming to terms with alcoholism.

Anyway, first on the list is to discover any particular pattern in your partner's drinking habits. For example, Is drinking a daily event? or is maybe just the a weekend habit? Do they tend to hit the bottle after a sudden row? Or would you say their stressful job is always a good excuse for a drink or two?

Alcoholics in general tend to always come up with the same excuses for an excessive drinking pattern. A partner who just has the odd drink socially is not on par with one who always visits the pub regularly after work for a relaxing drink. If your partner falls into the latter category then I am afraid that he has become dependent on alcohol to a certain degree.

Many recovering alcoholics state that they always tended to blame someone else for all of their problems; their boss was difficult, their spouse nagged all the time, money was scarce. Instead of admitting to any responsibility, they drank their problems away. Has your spouse been blaming everyone around them for their perceived problems?

One of the sadder aspects of this disease is how it affects the whole family in general, as an alcoholic will avoid all his family commitments. If you feel that the financial burden is falling upon you and that your partner is not responding, then should just try and work out how much of the family budget is being diverted to alcohol.

There are many surveys out there to study, articles and books to read, and programs to watch that state if you answer theses questions as yes, then alcoholism is present. Unfortunately, every situation is different. Not only do you need to look at how much is being drank, but also what other behaviour is causing problems in your family life. There is no easy answer but there is a lot of help for the spouse and family if they take the time to look for it.

The conclusion to such a terrible situation to be in is that you are not the only person in or who has been in the same situation and that your way out is through mutual guidance and support. You can start to find support from other people who have suffered the same as you have at http://www.stopdrinkingadvice.org/guide/ and you will soon realize that you have already taken the first step for you and your spouse.